Doesnt Reply for a Second Date Text Again

*Date went well, she messaged with intent to encounter me again, now her replies are slow and *****

Alright lads (and ladies), its that time once more. Summertime. When you sorta don't mind the thought of talking to/seeing someone from home before you go back to uni. I'yard testing the waters right now with a girl I met on tinder. I didn't have long to get the date sorted. Long story brusk, date was v practiced, vibes 5 skillful, all goody. Talking to her in the build upward to meeting was good likewise. It never took her long to reply fifty-fifty on days she was working.

Now at the terminate of our date (bar staff had to kick us out because we were there until closing lol), I told her to text me when she got in. She did and she thanked me for the drinks and said she knows somewhere we tin can become for next time. I bantered her about "next fourth dimension" saying, "then you're already wanting to see me, I've merely been gone for an hour. dont blame you lot tho". Blah apathetic apathetic. Messaged her at least once a day for general chit chat hows your day been, whats work saying etc, except for wed. Our date was monday.

Since and so I feel like somethings happened. Her replies have been dead and she takes hours to respond/responds at weird times of the day considering shes off piece of work now . When I asked her what day she wanted to meet upwardly again a few days ago she said "second half of next week or the calendar week after". Second half of next week I assume is from the coming Thursday and onward. Also I'chiliad the one popping up constantly since the date. I feel like if I dont message her she wont say anything which is weird. I dont know if its playing hard to get or if shes shy, but the stuff she was coming out on the date with was a articulate indication that isnt the case.

Anyways, do I sack her off - because Im not chasing girls for the balance of my summer or try to ostend our next date and take her response from in that location.

her a*southward probably fuc*ing some next bloke while she texting you thus resulting in her deadening texts. Now that'south a fine theory. Existent talk that girls a hoe practice not hunt up on her. Dust her off and exercise you. Just there is a risk she going through some sh*t. I don't know both seem equally plasuible. I'll give this thread a rep to bump it up so the knowledgable LADS can get on this.

(Original mail service by AspiringAccount)
her a*s probably fuc*ing some next gars while she texting you thus resulting in her boring texts. Now that's a fine theory. Real talk that girls a hoe do not hunt up on her. Dust her off and exercise y'all. But there is a hazard she going through some sh*t. I don't know both seem equally plasuible. I'll requite this thread a rep to bump it up so the knowledgable LADS tin can go on this.

dont say that bro, im not feeling a marvins room kind of dark haha, but yh she could be who knows. Shes been open nearly what shes been up to, parties and seeing mates but no real style to know. Appreciate your input though fella!

(Original post by 444plus222)
dont say that bro, im not feeling a marvins room kind of dark haha, but yh she could exist who knows. Shes been open about what shes been up to, parties and seeing mates but no existent mode to know. Appreciate your input though fella!

Y'all're references are flawless. Oh and likewise.

(Original post by 444plus222)
dont say that bro, im not feeling a marvins room kind of night haha, only yh she could exist who knows. Shes been open about what shes been up to, parties and seeing mates but no existent fashion to know. Appreciate your input though fella!

Ignore that [email protected] answer, perhaps something has come up up, maybe she is more busy. I suggest keep talking, but not too much. Yous should try and get a 2nd date asap, as soon every bit she tin and then you can progress further, don't waste matter time, get direct to the betoken. You sound similar a level headed fella and then merely exercise your thing, cos this is tinder another better looking guy could come along and ruin things so don't take things to lightly. Good luck m8.

(Original mail service past 444plus222)
*Date went well, she messaged with intent to run into me again, now her replies are slow and *****

Alright lads (and ladies), its that time again. Summer. When you sorta don't listen the idea of talking to/seeing someone from domicile before you become back to uni. I'm testing the waters correct at present with a girl I met on tinder. I didn't take long to become the date sorted. Long story brusk, date was v good, vibes 5 good, all goody. Talking to her in the build upward to meeting was good too. It never took her long to reply even on days she was working.

Now at the finish of our date (bar staff had to kick united states of america out considering nosotros were there until closing lol), I told her to text me when she got in. She did and she thanked me for the drinks and said she knows somewhere we tin can go for next time. I bantered her about "side by side time" maxim, "then you're already wanting to see me, I've only been gone for an 60 minutes. dont blame you lot tho". Blah blah blah. Messaged her at to the lowest degree once a day for general chit chat hows your mean solar day been, whats work saying etc, except for wednesday. Our date was monday.

Since then I feel like somethings happened. Her replies have been expressionless and she takes hours to reply/responds at weird times of the day considering shes off work now . When I asked her what day she wanted to run into upward again a few days agone she said "second half of next week or the week later on". 2d half of side by side week I presume is from the coming Thursday and onward. Also I'm the one popping upwardly constantly since the date. I feel like if I dont message her she wont say annihilation which is weird. I dont know if its playing difficult to get or if shes shy, only the stuff she was coming out on the date with was a clear indication that isnt the instance.

Anyways, practise I sack her off - considering Im non chasing girls for the rest of my summer or try to confirm our adjacent date and take her response from there.

Rule ane: Yous can never declare a 1st appointment went "well" until you've been on the second. The fact that a 2d one looks unlikely at this point in time suggests the date didn't get every bit well as yous thought information technology did.

I don't care if the girl was laughing at your every joke and hanging off your every discussion, if you can't get her out again ...the date didn't go "well" because she doesn't want to see y'all anymore.....

Dominion 2: Approach every date equally if it's going to be the last time you encounter a woman, don't depository financial institution on anything occurring afterward you part ways. Did you at least passionately kiss her or become physical with her? ....given how flakey women are y'all should have gone for it as you lot oftentimes will not get the opportunity again.

endmost thoughts: She is displaying textbook behavior at present of a girl who is not interested. She's probably talking to like 5 other Chads as I type this, she may be even ****ing i of them. Don't be naive and assume she is telling you about everything [guy wise]. Women can be pretty sneaky when they want to be.....

my communication to yous would be to end wasting time with this girl and motility on to somebody else.

(Original postal service by 444plus222)
*Date went well, she messaged with intent to run into me again, now her replies are slow and *****

Alright lads (and ladies), its that time once again. Summer. When you sorta don't mind the idea of talking to/seeing someone from home before you go back to uni. I'thousand testing the waters right now with a daughter I met on tinder. I didn't take long to get the appointment sorted. Long story short, date was v skilful, vibes v good, all goody. Talking to her in the build up to meeting was good too. Information technology never took her long to reply even on days she was working.

Now at the end of our engagement (bar staff had to kick us out because nosotros were there until closing lol), I told her to text me when she got in. She did and she thanked me for the drinks and said she knows somewhere nosotros tin can go for next time. I bantered her most "next time" saying, "and so you lot're already wanting to see me, I've only been gone for an hr. dont blame you tho". Blah blah blah. Messaged her at least one time a twenty-four hour period for general chit chat hows your solar day been, whats piece of work proverb etc, except for wednesday. Our date was monday.

Since and then I experience like somethings happened. Her replies accept been expressionless and she takes hours to answer/responds at weird times of the 24-hour interval considering shes off work now . When I asked her what day she wanted to come across up again a few days ago she said "second half of next week or the week afterward". 2d half of next week I assume is from the coming Thursday and onward. Also I'yard the one popping upward constantly since the date. I feel like if I dont message her she wont say anything which is weird. I dont know if its playing difficult to get or if shes shy, simply the stuff she was coming out on the date with was a clear indication that isnt the case.

Anyways, do I sack her off - because Im not chasing girls for the balance of my summer or try to confirm our next date and take her response from there.

Y'all ****ed up by texting her too much earlier and after the appointment. It kills allure quicker than anything.

After a skilful date, go cold and texting should be kept downwardly to an absolute minimum (avoid it at all costs if you can). Stop beingness needy and interim like this girl is your life... Demand to arctic and become do other things bro.

Rookie errors.

Honestly, there'southward no point pursuing someone if you are doing all of the work. Information technology isn't a good sign if she doesn't initiate anything. I concur that neediness is a large turn off, just maybe she didn't like yous as much as you think. She could also have other things going on in her life. Either way, I would stop texting her.

I've learned that you should always look at the mode people act in a state of affairs to discover their true feelings. Don't put too much stock in what they say.

(Original post by 444plus222)
I bantered her nearly "side by side time" proverb, "and then you're already wanting to see me, I've just been gone for an hour. dont blame you tho". Blah blah blah.

Daughter indicate of view here.
This is what killed information technology. You basically called her thirsty, so she idea she'd evidence you wrong by slowing down with letters and delaying side by side date to prove you wrong!

(Original mail past Newbie_noob)
Ignore that [e-mail protected] reply, mayhap something has come, perchance she is more decorated. I suggest keep talking, merely not too much. You should try and become a 2nd engagement asap, as shortly as she tin so you tin can progress further, don't waste time, go direct to the point. You audio like a level headed fella so just practice your affair, cos this is tinder some other amend looking guy could come up along and ruin things so don't take things to lightly. Good luck m8.

very true. I probably should proceed talking to other girls in the concurrently. thanks pal!

(Original post by ANM775)
Dominion ane: You can never declare a 1st date went "well" until you've been on the 2d. The fact that a 2d one looks unlikely at this point in time suggests the date didn't go as well as you thought it did.

I don't care if the girl was laughing at your every joke and hanging off your every word, if you can't get her out again ...the date didn't go "well" because she doesn't want to meet yous anymore.....

Rule 2: Approach every date as if information technology's going to be the final time you see a woman, don't bank on annihilation occurring after you part ways. Did you at to the lowest degree passionately osculation her or get physical with her? ....given how flakey women are y'all should have gone for information technology as you often will not get the opportunity again.

endmost thoughts: She is displaying textbook behavior now of a girl who is non interested. She's probably talking to like 5 other Chads every bit I type this, she may exist even ****ing one of them. Don't exist naive and assume she is telling you about everything [guy wise]. Women tin be pretty sneaky when they desire to exist.....

my communication to you lot would exist to stop wasting time with this girl and move on to somebody else.

Interesting take. All things considered you could exist right. Think I'll know definitively by next week where I stand. Cheers!

(Original post by trapking)
You ****ed up by texting her too much earlier and later on the date. It kills attraction quicker than annihilation.

After a good date, go cold and texting should exist kept down to an absolute minimum (avoid information technology at all costs if you lot can). Stop beingness needy and acting like this girl is your life... Demand to arctic and become practice other things bro.

Rookie errors.

On the contrary non texting/making effort makes me look uninterested and not serious. With the other girls I've seen (2 this year, for four and iii months),
say they've all liked and appreciated me taking an interest into them. I didn't popular up on Midweek but to give some space but even still I'm not a beg and I dont chat **** when I text her. Then deffo non needy. I work part time, bang gym and maintain an active social life so im quite decorated myself but I make the effort. Wouldnt say I'grand a rookie, merely appreciate your input.

(Original post by YaliaV)
Honestly, there's no point pursuing someone if you are doing all of the piece of work. Information technology isn't a good sign if she doesn't initiate annihilation. I agree that neediness is a big plough off, just maybe she didn't like yous every bit much as you think. She could also take other things going on in her life. Either mode, I would stop texting her.

I've learned that you should e'er look at the fashion people act in a situation to discover their true feelings. Don't put too much stock in what they say.

Im usual pretty forrad if I like someone but never want to come up beyond needy. Maybe I over exaggerated the way nosotros used to speak pre-date and I acc think she'south genuinely busy atm from her ig stories. Time will tell, thanks tho!

(Original post by Anonymous)
Girl point of view hither.
This is what killed information technology. Yous basically called her thirsty, so she thought she'd bear witness you incorrect by slowing down with messages and delaying next appointment to prove yous wrong!

I'd be very surprised if this was a factor only I dont know, thats why im hither lol. Thank y'all. I think I'll start matching her reply times at present, while still trying for the second date. This should be indicative of her truthful intentions.

(Original post by 444plus222)
Im usual pretty forward if I similar someone simply never want to come across needy. Peradventure I over exaggerated the way nosotros used to speak pre-date and I acc think she's genuinely busy atm from her ig stories. Time will tell, thanks tho!

I know it can be hard to residuum; you want to appear interested, but not needy. It tin can be hard to stop yourself from texting, though my communication would probably be to go cold turkey. Waiting can seem like agony, and so just distract yourself with other things and try to forget about it. If she likes you lot, and so she'll get back.

If y'all absolutely have to text her, so at least give it a few days. Just effort to relax either mode.

(Original mail service by 444plus222)
On the reverse not texting/making effort makes me look uninterested and not serious. With the other girls I've seen (ii this year, for four and 3 months),
say they've all liked and appreciated me taking an interest into them. I didn't popular up on Wed but to give some infinite but even still I'm not a beg and I dont chat **** when I text her. And then deffo not needy. I work function time, blindside gym and maintain an active social life so im quite busy myself but I make the endeavor. Wouldnt say I'm a rookie, but appreciate your input.

Women don't piece of work that way bro. The more you lot text everyday and chat the more it only kills attraction. You have to understand this indicate.

Women want non sexual attention they feed of that and you giving her that everytime means she has no reason to chase you lot or blindside you and will **** some other guy that'due south alpha every bit **** and doesn't even give her the fourth dimension of solar day.

It doesn't mean don't text her at all it simply means you have to show y'all're NOT dependent on her company at all and that you're not bothered if she goes. It makes women chase yous and in turn you tin can utilise this to your advantage to bang.

If she asks y'all where you have been and why you haven't been texting her just say y'all were busy even if y'all weren't. By yous texting her almost everyday you're automatically showing her you have nothing better to do than to text her all the time she so gets bored of you and seeks guys who requite her more excitement.

(Original post by trapking)
Women don't work that way bro. The more you text everyday and chat the more it merely kills attraction. You have to empathise this signal.

Women want non sexual attention they feed of that and you lot giving her that everytime means she has no reason to chase yous or bang you lot and volition **** some other guy that's blastoff as **** and doesn't even give her the time of twenty-four hour period.

It doesn't mean don't text her at all it just means you accept to bear witness you're Non dependent on her company at all and that you're not bothered if she goes. It makes women chase you lot and in turn you tin use this to your advantage to bang.

If she asks you where you have been and why you lot haven't been texting her simply say y'all were busy even if you weren't. By yous texting her almost everyday y'all're automatically showing her you have nothing better to practise than to text her all the time she and so gets bored of you and seeks guys who give her more than excitement.

I'll deffo become cold turkey until th. I think thats a great shout.Gives her time to remember whys he not texting or "great, hes not texting". I hear what you lot're maxim tho. Thanks bro

Update on my function, after seeing the other replies I'd like to concord with them.

BTW op, how does tinder work for you? I tried earlier but didn't get a single match, I had decent pictures but still no luck.

(Original post by Newbie_noob)
Update on my part, later on seeing the other replies I'd like to agree with them.

BTW op, how does tinder work for you? I tried before just didn't get a single match, I had decent pictures but still no luck.

I hold too!

Too **UPDATE** she replied finally to our last convo - zilch substantial, not gonna reply until tomo lol.

Ngl I'chiliad lowkey a seasoned tinder veteran. This ranges from girls I've really gone out with and girls I've merely slept with. Im lucky to be good looking - I back myself haha. Literally so many factors. I've got mates who are better looking than me just dont match the amount of girls I take or to my caliber. Only depends. Become objective feedback from mates if its bothering you. Have a range of pics. For case get like 3 selfies clearly showing your face so get a few grouping pictures (to show yous accept friends and aren't totally cocky obsessed) and try to show a range of fits. Good fashion goes a long way. You dont have to be dripping in designer, just await good. Make certain your bio isnt as well serious too lol. I recommend getting tinder plus too. dirt cheap and you get a free monthly boost. But you dont let information technology knock your conviction plenty of girls outside of tinder plainly. Are you in uni?

(Original post by 444plus222)
I agree too!

Also **UPDATE** she replied finally to our last convo - nothing substantial, not gonna reply until tomo lol.

Ngl I'm lowkey a seasoned tinder veteran. This ranges from girls I've actually gone out with and girls I've only slept with. Im lucky to exist good looking - I back myself haha. Literally then many factors. I've got mates who are ameliorate looking than me but dont match the amount of girls I accept or to my quotient. Just depends. Get objective feedback from mates if its bothering you. Have a range of pics. For case get like 3 selfies clearly showing your face up then become a few group pictures (to bear witness you accept friends and aren't totally self obsessed) and try to prove a range of fits. Proficient fashion goes a long way. Yous dont have to be dripping in designer, merely expect good. Brand sure your bio isnt as well serious likewise lol. I recommend getting tinder plus also. dirt cheap and y'all get a costless monthly boost. But you dont allow it knock your confidence plenty of girls exterior of tinder obviously. Are you in uni?

mayhap you expect ameliorate in pics than they do.

Not existence funny ...only some people just ain't that photogenic. I can call back of a dude I know who is nigh an eight and in pics he is like seven max, and typically a 6

whilst his mate is like a 6/7 in the flesh simply on photographic camera jumps to a 7.5 and really looks meliorate than the other guy

a couple of girls from work too, when i've seen their facebooks i've been shocked. they're pics don't do them justice at all, they look significantly meliorate IRL.

I await at their pics and think "meh.." but in real life I notice them quite bonny.

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